This is one area where recovery through AA/NA has definite advantages over trying some other method, like online recovery, books, etc. AA/NA teaches us how to have relationships again with real people, beginning with a sponsor and AA/NA friends and moving outward toward the rest of the world. One thing that happens to most of us when we use drugs/alcohol is that we develop very bad ways of relating to people (if we relate at all). We do not learn how to relate to people by staying home. The only way to learn is to get out into the world and be with real people. As you can probably tell, I'm a big believer in AA/NA. I understand that many people on these boards don't do that. But I know what works for me...