Welcome Back Jess, I have been think of you lately and was wondering how u have been. Lots of informative posts and advice already given. So i have really nothing to add but how are the kids and how to they feel with the recent changes with their Dad? As much as we need to focus on "us", i believe that my kids and their wellbeing is more important than my own needs and wants. I always keep in mind that they didn't ask to be born! well, good to see u back and take it one day at a time!! Kerry