Originally Posted by greenapplecider
... asked if she had cravings.
Now that I go to Al-anon, it has really helped me detach from the crazy roller coaster of living with an alcoholic. Basically, I do not ask my alcoholic daughter anything about her drinking, her AA visits, her recovery, etc..
If she offers the information, then I listen, but I am not her therapist or sponsor. I'm just someone who loves her. This is called loving detachment and it has really helped me gain some peace of mind.
Is it alcoholic behaviour? Well, alcoholics are erratic, emotional, unreliable, and any number of other unpleasant things. They are just really hard to live with. Until the person has a solid three months of recovery, their behaviour is probably messed up in general, whether they are drinking or not.