Oh yeah Judy-- I do "get" it. I don't think I'll be interested in being "friends" with him even years down the road. He is toxic. You're right too about the "if he's not dead" part. I really think that he IS the alkie that will never hit his bottom until it kills him. He's already lost so much PRIOR to me and considering all that has gone on lately, if he still doesn't get it, he really is hopeless IMO.
Mega, have you gone to an attorney to start separation proceedings leading to a divorce?
I'm going today. I'm not concerned if he is out of state by the time the papers are done b/c if so and I get no response, I'll get a quick, easy divorce by default. I'm getting it done so don't you worry. Money has been a prob. My parents are helping me with the divorce $. I tried for it not to come to that which is why I've waited for so long.