Thanks guys.
LaTeeDa thank you for your response. I have thought about my kids reaction and I know you are right. I know they will be so angry with me. They love thier dad so much and he is a great father as long as he isn't drinking which has been almost daily for a while. I know I will be the bad guy to them and that hurts as I only want to protect them. They do see him as being mean lately but to actually move out will definalty be a big blow to them.
They beg me not to leave them alone with him (this came up again tonight) and that keeps me strong in my belief that I must leave for now.
I am going to get them into some kind of counseling so they can understand. I try very hard not to add to or color thier view of things. I don't talk down about his drinking or ask leading questions but they do talk to me.
Just want to thank you for bringing up this very important issue.
R