Originally Posted by TAC
Over the years, he has also become more helpless. He seems like he can't do anything or figure anything out. He completely relies on me for virtually everything. ... I have had to do his job for him for the last 10 years. He takes advantage of me and manipulates me. [/color][/font]
Hello Tac - welcome. You will find a great deal of help and hope here at SR.
A book that would be tremendously helpful to you is "Codependent No More" by Melodie Beattie. You can get it from Amazon. She talks about how we co-dependents take on a huge amount of responsibility for care-taking our alcoholic loved ones and then we feel angry and victimized and unappreciated when we are treated badly by the same people we love so dearly.
Even if he gets treatment and stops drinking, you will need extensive help to mend the hurt and pain from all the years of his emotional abuse. For the sake of you, your child, and for his sake too, taking care of yourself right now is the most loving thing you could possibly do.
Keep coming back
God Bless