I was the same as LTD. It was my angery, my punishing, unrelenting, inforgiving, degrading, hurtful anger. And it was bad. I made sure he knew I was pissed and then I would shut him out. Ignore him, not listen or invalidate his feelings which onle made him feel worse. I am learning to shut my trap and listen or not let it affect me. It is a difficult process but a worth while one.