Hey Mega, you and I are joined by our stories I think. So very much alike, down to the things they told us about how "it wasn't that bad" and the empty promises. I was an enabler for him I have learned since finding this site yesterday. I was a provoker. I would punish him for hos behavior and it would never change. We've been seperated now since March 4th. Our one year wedding anniversary is in 15 days. Know that we are in this boat together with everyone here going through the same thing. You can PM me, IM me because when you need to talk, you just need to talk right!