Thanks Patty and yes Judy, he is a pyscho nutbag--- I know it. His problems are far beyond his alcoholism.
Patty-- AH refuses to leave. I've told him to go back to his home state. He's been wanting to go back there to live ever since we got together. It would be EASY for him, but he won't do it. He wants to stay in this place for another year. Even if he said he would leave when the lease is up, I wouldn't believe him. I think I have to be the one to find another place to ensure my own security. It sucks for me and he KNOWS it. That is why he's staying.