Hi Leslie
I wanted to jump in here and welcome you to the forums.
I think your therapy/counseling is a start and maybe this will help your hubby realize he has a problem to the extent that he needs help. But of course, I am sure you heard it before - unless he wants to do something about it there is nothing that we can do.
So we begin to take care of ourselves, we try to detach (which is easier said than done but possible!). Please read the posts around the boards especially the power posts at the top of the forums. If you haven't tried an al-anon meeting, you might want to give it a shot.
Make yourself at home and keep coming back
Many hugs,
Debbie