Originally Posted by SS
However - you can see the pattern is that "It's all ME!". (Ahh...the old blame game and manipulation game)
SS, you have the knowledge and awareness to see this. I'm glad you can step away from the situation and recognize his verbal abuse and manipulation for what it is. That being said, I know that doesn't make the process less easy. I'm sorry your hurt. For me, one of the big kickers would be that because addiction is selfish, so he wouldn't even see his part in the failure of the marriage. I get that "have to be right" tendency in my relationship! Does that bother you too?
((SS))