Hi Peach,
Sounds like you are a trooper!! Hang in there and do go to naranon, he's very lucky to have you. It's going to be tough for both of you but keep in mind when he's angry or "mean", it's not him it's the addiction. The addiction is making him be something he doesn't want to be. When someone asks you questions you do get offensive because you're ashamed and embarrassed. He does need to come off the completely!! But you should really think about in patient, the withdraw is not going to be pretty and if he's at home he can cheat. If you're not home you can't cheat and you have to face the reality of what's going on.