Ah yes - the old "tell me if you see relapse behaviour" story. My son has tried that and it didn't work either. Now I tell him that if he is working his program, he will see his own relapse behaviour and do what he wants with it.
Good girl!!! Hands off!!! Don't forget that his sponsor is powerless too, he can only suggest what works for others, but the real work is up to the addict.