Mega,
I know exactly what you are going through! I have been very quiet, and layed back just sort of examining my life. As I'm doing this, I'm watching his actions and taking it all in. I don't know if it's a recovery phase, or if it's just a stage of trying to decide....look at things all the way around and not just the good OR the bad things going on in our lives.
I find myself just not wanting to talk to others. Maybe I get all wrapped up in my own thoughts, or maybe I just don't want to feel criticized. I'm not sure. But I do know what you are talking about..... Hope it works out for us both.