Well Meg, I think you already know the answer to your questions. We can't make the decisions for them......you tried to discuss it and you got the common response.......very defensive.......he knows better, but he is choosing to do it anyway. This is where you get to sit back and let him self distruct!! Maybe he won't or maybe he will get through all of it with-out using, but he KNOWS that he shouldn't be making these kinds of plans. Don't "plan" or "predict" before it happens it is a waste of you time and energy and definately won't change the out come. It will only put wear and tear on you that is unecessary. Let him carry out his plans and you continue to work on your recovery. Make some plans of your own and concentrate on YOU!!
I know, it isn't much, but it is all I have to offer now. Stay strong and true to your own recovery!
Constant