((((((((Lady))))))))
Let me first assure you that you are a great mother and homekeeper! Don't kill yourself trying to prove it! Did you see how your "A" turned the attention off of himself and onto your so-called deficiencies?
I know we are suppose to ignore what they say, when they are being hurtful, and detach from it, but I believe our brain is still hearing it. So, what I'm beginning to do is say out loud to myself (after he is gone) I am a great mother (10 times) and I am great at keeping house (10 times) to make my brain hear more positive than negative. Don't second guess yourself! You are doing great!
You really need to do something for yourself today. Fix yourself a pot of English Breakfast tea (or your favorite), and burn some candles, and scan through some neat magazines--and just sit and relax for awhile with your feet up--you deserve it.
Lyn