Welcome spammajamma (funny name). It's probably best that you discuss this with your gf. Telling someones parent that their son/daughter is an addict is very hard. When I told my xabf's father, he screamed at me. He was in serious denial, and it took me a very long time to get over the horrible, untrue, things he said to me. While he did apologize later, when the truth became undeniable, it was the worst experience. And I has always thought that he was a nice guy. It sounds like your gf wants help, she should ask for it. Why is scared of going through the state? I hope to see you in the friends and family section in the future. Keep us updated.