Originally Posted by aztchr
I'm second guessing my decision to have left abf for a month now and put the house up for sale. I know nothing has changed on his end, BUT maybe I can learn how to be ok with things if I detach more while I'm there.
I understand what you're going through. Do you think your expectation was that when you forced the sale of the house he would come to his senses and get sober for you? What things would you have to learn to be ok with? What would he have to learn to be ok with about you? Seven months on I still have self doubt about what I did. I think it's natural. But I'm not going back to that old way of living. Detachment does not mean putting up with unacceptable behavior.