I don't understand, why would you want to help someone hurt themselves? There's so much compassion and understanding in you that so genuinely wants the BEST for people. Enabling another's addiction contributes to the worst, in him, and in you. Vic, we all wish the BEST for YOU. You know what to do.
As an aside, once again, I'm right where you are, I can see what your brain is doing. It's protecting that using side, in playing these games. That black dog inside is ferocious. Don't feed it, that only fuels it, gives it more life. Call your beautiful white dog and go to a meeting, talk with a friend, write to us here.