Do you want your kids to learn the same lessons from you that you learned from your Mother?
Jess, this is the same point I made in response to one of your previous posts--one that I know upset you quite a bit. Perhaps because deep down, you know that it's true.
In fact, it was the realization that my actions were teaching my daughter to accept unacceptable behavior from her future partner that finally led me to end the cycle and ask Richard to leave.
And we all know what happened to Richard when I stopped interfering with his life (no phone calls, visits, letters, or information gleaned from friends). He hit rock bottom and finally got the help he needed. He turned his life around and found a path to sobriety.
And you know what? He did it all WITHOUT help from me. Which is as it should be.
As always, I'm pulling for you, Jess.