MG,
Let me add that I have been in this program 10 years and it has been within the last 3 that I have accepted death as a possiblity. Before that I could feel myself tighten up at the very thought of it.
Pernell I am not sure if you agree, but it was my experience that it took time to accept the whole. My son has not lived at home for about 7 years and as his disease has progressed I was left unable to avoid that possibility any longer. And the anxiety disappeared. If I cannot control the disease I cannot control the outcome. I did not go looking for it...it found me over time.
I don't think this discussion is morbid at all. I still have hope...realistic hope.
Hugs,
JT