MG,
I have accepted that my son's death caused by his life style is a possiblity. I am not sure that that is the correct progression of my continuing recovery but that is as far as I have gotten.
Now I doubt that accepting his death as a concept would make his actual death less painful but my fear has been lessen and thereby my tendency to react.
Oh and thanks from me too Pernell!!!
Hugs,
JT