Welcome to SR Jessica,
I am 31 now and married with my own kids but I have never forgotten the daily struggle to stay sane while a parent was so out of control and self-destructive. I know this very difficult for you and I feel your pain. I am saying a prayer for you right now. I know what you mean by them being so charming to others and they have no idea what you go through. My dad had the chief of police wrapped around his finger and every time we had to call the cops because he had destroyed the house and was threatening to hurt evrybody the cops would always say, just calm down, we'll have to arrest you next time--next time came and same conversation. My dad didn't drink it was prescription pills, but my friends who had alcoholic dads said it was just like their dad's behaviour. Well you just keep on posting here, there are so many who will care and support you and offer better advice than I, just wanted to let you know your post touched me and I care.
Many hugs and hope too,
Tammie
