Hi KFarrar. Welcome to Sober Recovery!! Here is a link for Naranon meetings. I hope you can find one. If not, you can try Alanon. Also posting some homework for Step One.
http://nar-anon.org/texas.htm
1. Describe the circumstances that brought you to the Naranon program.
2. List your expectations when you attended your first Naranon meeting.
3. Now list the changes you are seeking today. Review this exercise from time to time to discover the healthy changes you are making in recovery.
4. List the ways you have attempted to change another person or influence another's lifestyle.
5. Go over the following list, noting whether you did any of these things (or others). What were the results of your attempts to change someone else? Save your answers and review them occasionally to see if you are still caught in a power struggle.
lecturing
nagging
scolding
waking someone up for school or work
paying off debts
making excuses for behavior
lending money
denying money
threatening
pleading
rewarding
showing anger
using passive aggression
grounding
providing attorneys
bailing out of jail
6. Record the things you have done or are now doing to support your denial that a problem existed or still exists. Review this exercise periodically.
7. Describe a specific instance when you attempted to control someone else's addictive behavior or the behavior resulting from such abuse. Write about the net results and the repercussions of this attempt. Then look at yourself: your motivations and your responsibilities. This exercise will tell you a little about yourself and a lot about your powerlessness when you try to control another person's life.
8. Can you now admit that you are powerless over drugs and other people's lives? How did this become a reality for you?
9. Describe what letting go means to you. Review this exercise from time to time.
10. Describe the things in your life that were once unmanageable.
11. Describe the things in your life that are presently unmanageable.
12. Which of these pertain to you and which concern someone else?
13. Can you now admit that your own life has become unmanageable? How did this become a reality to you?
14. How are you applying the principles of Step One at this time? You might gain some insight by answering the following questions.
a. How often do you read and reflect on Step One?
b. Does your powerlessness over another still disturb you? Why?
c. How can you be powerless over another and still care?
d. How does this step relate to our responsibility to yourself and others?
e. Does this step mean complete rejection of your loved one(s)?
f. In what ways has the awareness of your own life's unmanageability changed your perspective?