Now I have to deal with the consequence of my action.
Absolutely ..... start thinking Jess instead of reacting! Start thinking "if I do this what are the possible consequences to this behavior later, tomorrow, next week, next month, next year?"
If you are honest in your assessment of the situation,
only then can you decide if the behavior you are thinking about is worth it. This is what I do in certain aspects of my life that I have difficulty with.
I know I am beating a dead horse, but there was absolutely no reason for you to pick up that phone so quickly to call him. It could have waited until you have made a clear reasonable effort to think it out.