No, No No!!!!!!! My husband is 27 years sober. You are living with a chronically ill person who will need treatment for life. First there is ALWAYS THE POSSIBLITY OF A SLIP. Then even if sober, the spouse will need to go to meetings for life- sharing things he will never share with you and usually putting program people before his own family. Plus no matter how grave the wrongs he or she may do to you, because they are 12 steps believers, they will expect for you to just ' turn it over' with no discussion or counseling in the matter. This is just my opinion of my life with an alcoholic. dax