Meg,
I have learned...not mastered....that people change. Right now you are changing big time. You are sensitive to different things today than you used to be. Not that any of this is your fault..but sometimes (nah...all the time) codependency reaches beyond the addict in our lives. Could you be expecting different things from these friends than you used to??
Beavettes mom was gone a year the 19th of this month and very few people remembered. I am blessed to have those that did...several of them here. People have their own lives and some think they are the center of the universe more than others.
I am messing this all up. What I am trying to say is that all friendships don't last a lifetime. They or we outgrow it...we take different paths. You can choose to enjoy what you love about these friends and bow out when you are not comfortable. I have an entire gaggle of those sorts of friends.
(((Love ya Meg)))) We have angels watching over us. Perhaps they have met.
JT