Look at the red flags. I feel personally, and maybe some others may feel this way, that my Bullsh*t Meter is at all all-time high (no pun intended). I mean, my radar is primed and ready to GO! I can spot a red flag a mile away and I can smell the bs before it even comes out of someone's mouth. I don't carry a purse anymore - I carry a shovel. Am I overreactive? No...just realistic. Am I paranoid? No... just verrrrry careful. That's what people do when they put themselves in Number 1 position. Which is where I will be from now on. Forever.
Just watch the red flags. No more self-deception. Ask yourself if any questionable issues and/or qualities pop up, "Can I live with this" instead of "Hmmm, I don't like that too much. What can I do to rearrange myself to get along with that?"
Actions. Look at actions. Words are easy.... anyone can say words. No effort required but to form the sentences and let them roll right off your tongue. Action is what you can take to the bank.