Here is my view as a recovering alcoholic. If I really liked the person and cared for them I wouldn't dump them IF they are working a good, strong recovery program. I WOULD be very cautious and I would observe that person and try to determine how strong their program is. Things I would take into consideration, do they attend meetings regularly? Do they have a sponsor and do they use them? Do they seem to have the ability to meet life on life's terms?
Personally I would not get involved with someone who is early in sobriety. I would want them to have a minimum of a couple of years sober and working a program. I would also make it very clear in setting the boundary that if they relapsed I would immediately remove myself to protect my own sobriety. For me, my sobriety is my top priority in life and it comes before relationships.
I hope when I find someone else that they ARE in AA because at least then I will know that they will understand how I'm trying to live my life today and why.
Wonderful question ICU! I can't wait to see more answers.
Hugs,
Kellye