You will get through this! This is a great place to be. I found that I was not alone and that this crap is not normal. I have moved from co-dependent to terribly detached. Mine is in rehab and I don't want him back quite honestly. This time in my house has been so wonderful. I come home and the house is clean, he's not passed out, there is still money in the bank account from when I put it there (he was not working)....it's so stable...I finally feel in control of my life again. Read, read read, go to meetings. You are where I was 2 years ago, small children, etc...As he goes through his process, you have to start your healing process yourself. These people are so supportive as the ones you will find in al-anon. You will cry alot, but the crying will start to stop.