Welcome yingyang!!
I am so glad you found us! There are so many super people here. Going to a meeting and reading are positive steps. Check out the power posts at the top of the Al-anon and Nar-anon boards too. They have a wealth of info!!! Remember to take care of YOU! That is great that your husband is in a program. It is hard to forget about all the bad times his drinking caused. We can forgive sometimes, but forgetting is another story. It does get easier when you start working on your recovery.
Take care and keep coming back,
matters