OK my AA side has to come out now.
"90 in 90" is only a "suggestion" in certain parts of the country. Not all meetings and people in the meetings suggest this or even know about it. It is not in the first 164 pages of the Big Book of AA, it actually came from some rehab program. (not sure which one.)
Aquina, sounds like G is just about where he is suppose to be. Of course, the urges are still there, he spent years dealing with all things in his life, by using acohol. Now, whether hes sad, angry, happy, whatever, these are all NEW feelings that he is starting to deal with, without alcohol. The fact he called his sponsor, and his sponsor has told him (so it is G's choice) to call or come over anytime is GREAT. He's giving G choices, and seeing "how willing" G is.
Recovery is a long long process, and the visible changes will appear slowly in early sobriety. This man is walking on a bed of hot coals, with emotions he has stuffed for years coming to the surface and he has no idea whatsoever what to do with them.
We alkies do a lot of "floundering" the first year or so of sobriety.
I think your sitting back and just watching (not analyzing) is great.
Keep doing for you and the baby.
Love and hugs,