When my ex went to AA, he was told 90 mtgs in 90 days no excuses. It was his responsibility to get the list of phone numbers for each meeting in advance. That way, if he had car trouble and couldn't make his way there on his own, he was to call every single person on that list until he found someone that could give him a ride. They didn't make it hard, or sugar-coat it for anyone. Like Judy said, it is what it is, for everyone, equally!