You 're right and the thing is, I've stopped expecting anything from him. I used to put my faith in my husband and he has destroyed all the faith in him. Here's the epitphany for me. That was a necessary correction. I should have never put my faith in him to begin with. I have turned this over to God. Joyce Meyers says that makes it Gods problem and not mine. I'm happy not to be an alcoholic. I wouldn't want people to feel so little trust or respect for me. Lent is a call to conversation. I feel my feelings and deal with them. I'm thankful for finding this place to vent and find support. I hope this lent season brings answers and peace to all your homes.