Thank you so much for the responses. I just felt like I was falling apart yesterday, and I am very glad that I found this board. I've been to some Al-Anon meetings, and should go to them more often. But this is a fantastic tool, allowing people to reach out for help 24-hours a day.
I TRIED to think rationally last night, and I think my boyfriend is also dealing with a depression problem. I don't know if this is related directly (or perhaps indirectly) to alcoholism issues, and I know that he doesn't "believe" in shrinks or drugs.
Sigh. Just one day at a time, right?