Welcome to the forums Jusbecawz,
First off let me say, I can relate to your story. My hubby just drank again after months sober, took my car, drove it under a fence and into a tree and is facing a DUI charge.....not sure what number this is.
I have always been supportive of him when he would seek out sobriety, but ultimately I knew it had to be his choice, he needed to want to stop and there was nothing I could to do to make him stop, no matter what I tried.
So I went to an Al-Anon meeting and I found this site. And now I work on taking care of me, because hubby is the only one who can take care of him. By taking care of me, I can only hope that some of the positive things I have learned over flows to him.
I don't have any great words of wisdom but I just wanted to let you know, you aren't alone. Many share the same things that are going on with you. Take a look around, read the power posts which are stickys at the top of the Al-Anon and Nar-Anon forums, they are very good reading.
I hope you stick around and come to know what a great place this is and how wonderful and supportive everyone is here.
You take care of you.
Many hugs,
Debbie