An old man once told me and D a story - something of a wedding present, he asked us to listen and we did.
He said years ago he'd been a sailor and shared a bunk with an artist. He said the artist drew all their pin-ups in charcoal, beautiful pictures. He watched him draw every night and was so amazed by the skill that he thought he might like to try - he asked if he could borrow the pad and charcoal and his friend said he could as long as he showed him what he drew.
Matt used to like drawing at school and gave it his best attempt but got frutsrated. When his cabin mate returned seeing his things had been used he asked to see the drawing. Matt said he was ashamed, but his mate held him to the deal. Matt showed him the results and pointed out everything he hated.
His friend did the opposite and pointed out all that he could see that was good. Afterwards he told him 'Any idiot can see the wrong things but it takes intelligence to see what is good and use it.'
Matt finished his story and said by way of an explaination that he liked a certain song - one witha line that says 'I want a love that grows and grows, not a love that comes and goes'.
BW was just a man, human, sometimes hurting, sometimes right, sometimes wrong but he had the courage to show his work without that we wouldn't have had the chance for this discussion.