Acceptance,is the key.There will always be well meaning friends who will probably inform you about him,because maybe in your past you have helped him?We teach others how we want to be treated by our own actions.It takes time,to teach others,that we have changed,what or how we reacted in the past,has changed.Teaching others new ways in which we want to be treated.Thing is,im thinking that what you avoid will always come back.Until all the feelings are brought to light,and you can actually heal inside,,all that your thinking/feelings about him.I have done this also.When i have had to remove myself,from another.Felt it best for my own recovery.Thing is,that either i heard about this person,which brought up all old feelings in me,or somehow,their name was mentioned.I had to deal,with all my own feelings/thoughts about my issues with them.So i went through steps 4-5,getting to,my own, roots and causes.,of things going on inside of me.I was the problem,not them.Today,its all ok,to hear about them,even seeing them time to time.It all has no effect on me,like it use to.As long as i was avoiding,they had control.But once i started,to, use recovery tools,that power that i gave them ,was over.Got it back,to me.No longer passing the strings to my life over to them.its in my ball court,now.And this gives me freedom,working through my own issues.In this way,i dont have to demand anything from others to not do or say this or that,to me.I cant control others,no matter how i try.Acceptance is da key...To each their own.Do whats best for you.
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