Just been reading your story and the replys. just wanted to say thanks... have recently become involved with a guy and been fighting with myself on how i can help him. you have just reasured me. my dad gave me the advise of pushing him away and to be cruel to be kind. i tried this but all his tears and talk of giving up made me keep living in the farytale of saving him. i know now that i have to let him loose to gain the strength to change. i know how tough this must be for you because you have known him for so long and loved him. what have you decided to do. its just so stomach twisting to watch. and im like you i cant turn my back.
lots and lots of love to you. take care.