thats how i feel too
i know i have to stop giving money to my AS , and i will not fix his problems or pay his bills any longer, if he loses his car ..then he just loses it. But if he needs a warm bed to crawl in or a hot meal too eat it will always be here , and he also knows he can talk to me about anything and above all he knows how much I love him.
When he does talk , i listen ..even if i dont like what i hear. I never put him down or call him a loser or anything of that nature. I do however tell him how much it hurts me , how much it is hurting him...how much his health is going down hill and how he stands to lose everything he owns, or go to jail or eventually lose his own life or maybe even someone elses if he runs of the road by passing out after he has been up for 5 days.
I do try to give him things to think about, he says he needs help, but when i mention rehab he says no. Im hoping one day he will say yes.