Hi Dolphingirl,
I read this awhile back on Dr. Phil's ( I know.....Dr. Phil ???
page and it
made sense to me:
Here goes and hope it helps some:
"What you may not recognize is that in many cases guilt is a very self-serving emotion. I know, I know: You're thinking, How can it be self-serving to experience pain and frustration? The answer is very simple: People who feel chronic guilt are essentially giving themselves permission to have a pity party and sit on the sidelines of life rather than getting involved in the flow of things. Think about it: If you are so guilt-ridden, you probably have low self-esteem. If you have low self-esteem, you probably experience a lot of fear. When facing a challenge, you tell yourself, I'm not worthy of this. I can't do this successfully. It's a handy excuse that lets you off the hook without giving it your best shot—or any shot at all. You need to get over yourself, get over your guilt, and get back in the game. And I don't feel guilty about telling you that.
Dr. Phil McGraw "
((hugs))