I am pretty lucky to have a job where everyone likes me and likes working with me. I'm not sure I'd have much esteem if it weren't for my job. I will turn 50 this week. I am wondering if when you "detach", do you make a statement about it or do you just do it? I have been detaching and my husband hasn't even noticed. How much do you detach? My husband is drinking himself stupid everyday. I suspect as I pull away sexually, he will find that somewhere else too. Do I just let him go?