Good answer,Margo!
I think my earliest recollections are of not being heard..that it was my place to fit the rules and not expressing myself when the rules didn't fit, were a problem, or not appropriate. I saw it as my inablility to fit the rules, not that the rules were wrong. Now, I know those rules were inappropriate. My parents were the rule-givers, the guide book to how it is.
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PS guide? Geez, they were the final answer! Guide would have been nicer.