Perhaps there are small events that start the process of giving it up, giving it away, or just having it eroded by others more powerful - things like shaming, or the need to please when we override a young sense of what's right or fair in order to feel loved by a parent when they show dissaproval. And perhaps there are moments, like Gypsy just spoke of, where there is such a core violation of a child's being that it's not so much given up, but stolen. Gypsy, I'm so sorry that happened to you.