AB, codey mom - SSDD
We lived far from the drain that is my AB for over 25 years. Now we are back “home” to help my aging mom, but she is obsessed with her AS/my AB. He was gone - in jail and on the streets of another state - for about nine months. She paid for him to get back here (of course), on the condition that he could not live with her again. But he lied, then manipulated….then got sick and one “plan” after another fell through, and he’s sober for five seconds and she’s back to making excuses for him day after day. She keeps me posted, which makes me crazy. I refuse to come over while he’s “not living there” (seriously???!!!…she’s obviously just setting the stage to justify him officially living there again soon. Dude, he’s living there now), which I’ve clearly stated and she just says “I understand”. I can’t expose my kids to him right now…clean or not…it’s more about him being addicted to manipulation than anything. But he can’t seem to stop. He’s always trying to rope me in to stuff too…just misdirection and manipulation…mom has a cough and needs this and that, or, I want to start a recovery non-profit and can you help me ….trying to shift the focus. I mean, seriously not clean himself long enough to even make a dent yet. I am FURIOUS with both of them. We had an abusive childhood (mom’s codey ways were focused on her men back then), including my AB experiencing the worst of it…and he has HF ASD, but he knows EXACTLY what he’s doing and I cannot stand it. I know what to do and I am doing it, but I just needed to vent. Thanks for listening ♥️.