In some relationships (mine included) a partners sobriety scares the hell out of the other partner.
We are different now. They have to get to know us again, the real us... and that can be alot to swollow.
I have learned that unfortunately, my husband doesnt like me much clean and sober. Way too hard to control and manipulate me and you can see the hate and frustration in his eyes because of it.
I have been clean of a horrid hydrocodone habit since Jan 17th. Each of those days I have heard, 'You need to take your meds and get your ass off the couch, this is all so stupid'. While puking he is sweet enough to bring me two pills (this was day 3 of cold turkey). I lost it and spit in his face. I know thats awful but I am fighting a pure demon and he places it right there in front of me while Im trying to excorise the demon already THERE! I said 'if you ever offer me that trash again I will see it no differently than you putting a gun to my head with only one bullet and I will relatiate accordingly.
He no longer insists I take my meds, just rags me for being sick... thinks Im milking the whole thing or something, I dont know.
He is too stupid to know there is NOTHING I would love better than to go on the boat, to the beach, hell Wal-Mart for Gods sake... he hasnt a clue. And I hate him for it because the info is out there yet he doesnt reseach what Im going through.