Originally Posted by
Oglsby 
It is always hard for me to read these posts because I was "that guy". Did I deserve for my partner to leave me? Absolutely yes.
Sometimes I still wonder if it is over, because I did so much damage over the years. I think everything will be OK and I try really hard every day. But...I was in a place for that and I wanted MORE THAN ANYTHING to change. I do not hear this in your partner's actions and words.
Would I have stayed with me? No, I would not have. Be really careful. I don't think the change you need or hope for is going to happen. I just don't. Hugs to you.
thank you for that honesty. I know someone has to do it when they choose. It’s so hard the daily affirmations that leaving is really my only choice. I really have to remind myself that I don’t deserve the verbal abuse I take daily I can’t control it and honestly I don’t want to. It’s exhausting and it never ever changes. I hope one day he wants to get help… until that happens no amount of talks or tears will change it.