I am also glad that you found this wonderful forum. Loving an alcoholic is pure hell, and I remember feeling like I was losing my mind because I was being told that what I knew to be true was not. We have all experienced this and over the years I have taken comfort in knowing that I am not at all crazy.
Wishing you the best during the upcoming move. Your home should be your sanctuary, a place where you feel calm and happy. I hope that you will soon feel this way.