i actually thought about talking to his sponsor thought i wasn't sure about the "rules" there. I've met him many times- so he knows me and i know where i could find him... I just wasn't sure about the sponsor relationship thing... since everything is Anonymous/ personal will he listen or even talk to me. We do know each others last names, etc.. we all spent NY eve together and stuff and he is the house manager of the 3/4 house where my boyfriend lives (his boss so to speak). My AB got his 90 days clean yesterday and said that he would not be drinking etc. if he would go to vegas with his dad... even if he wouldn't i still think it's just getting into the habit of surrounding yourself with the things he used to/ can't do anymore.. thank you so much for taking time to discuss these things with me-