I know women in danger of their lives, this is just obnoxious behavior. He used to stop me from taking showers and pat me on the head and call me a good girl and there had to be a huge fight about it but he doesn't anymore, once he sees something is ridiculous he stops but it's exhausting. He is very likeable, he has a small business and is liked in the community but I am a homebody and there is no one to back me up over what is relatively minor problems. He thinks he can take the kid and I am just trying to maintain a balance but I didn't know if it was something he could get help for so I wanted to know if it was drug based or mental before I started looking for some kind of help....